03 May 5 Notes to Self About Controlling Emotions
Kings and queens. I hope you’re having a fantastic day. Today, we’re going to talk about managing emotions and how things can get ugly if something gets on our nerves. Everyone has pet peeves, sensitive spots, and emotional side.
I’m not here to give you the technicalities, a literature or an analysis of human behavior or managing emotions, I’m here to explain how to control your emotions.
- Remember the one who angers you controls you.
- It’s up to you to decide whether you let something anger you or not. You decide if you put yourself in a position of command or the position of control. Would you react in an impulsive or a laid-back behavior when things get heated around you? How you react to these situations tells you who has the true power of your emotions. I like to believe that there’s a special place reserved for people that can’t control or contain their emotions and it doesn’t take a whole lot for you to imagine that people like that get fired. They go off and do things hastily or things that just are really unbecoming of them. But if you understand the nature of human behavior anybody can be bound to react hastily at any time. So, when I say that there’s a place reserved for these people I meant to say the principal office, probationary terms, suspensions or even jail.
- One of my silent mentors, Stephen Covey has this book called, “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”.People say: Always see the good in things. Give the benefit of the doubt.Be open-minded. It’s important to see the bigger picture in all that we do. And in the words of Stephen Covey, “Seek first to understand, then to be understood”.
One of the greatest lessons I learned from the past years is the importance of an alone time or solitude. I believe that you get to clear or focus your mind, you get to know yourself, you get to hear your self-talk or you get in touch with your wandering mind and you get to know more things about yourself when you spend some time alone.
You also have to be in a place to replace your thoughts. You need a place where can recharge mentally and have that safe haven to where you can take all the cares and the time and reevaluate all the things, the craziness or the noise going on around you. This place is a place within yourself. You also need to find a healthy set of people to be around because sometimes when you’re the only person that’s thinking positive and being positive in those environments, then that could take its toll on you. As the late Chris Kyle, the Navy Seal whose autobiography was made into a movie called American Sniper, “Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell who you are.
Did you know:
One of Barack Obama’s daily routines includes an alone time. According to an article in The New York Times,
“For Mr. Obama, the time alone has become more important.” “Everybody carves out their time to get their thoughts together. There is no doubt that window is his window,” said Rahm Emanuel, Mr. Obama’s first chief of staff. “You can’t block out a half-hour and try to do it during the day. It’s too much incoming. That’s the place where it can all be put aside and you can focus.”
- Remember that your belief systems are also important in managing your emotions. If you believe that it’s important to bring value wherever you go or whatever you encounter, then these belief systems can help you manage those pet peeves, unexpected situations, and stressors. Managing emotion is instantly increased. Let your light shine with these positive and helpful belief systems.
- The last thing I’ll add about managing emotions before you go to that special place is to ask for divine guidance. Say a prayer. Some things can only come by prayer whatever your belief system is, whatever your culture, religion, religion, or spirituality is.